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One Last Bite

Hey there you  fabulous person you…Happy Tuesday!

See that image at the top of the page…yes the one that looks super jenky and like a 2 year old took it….

While that image doesn’t seem like much, it actually represents something huge for me.  You see, that image represents years of work.  It represents freedom.  It represents self-love.  It represents so much more than the quality of the image indicates.

Let me take you back about 8 years….way way back….back to the time of letting an eating disorder rule my life.

You see, that food right there…that last bit in the container….that food would have been causing me agony right about now.  I can see myself back then….and I can hear the thoughts that would have been stampeding through my brain…

“how dare you eat that food!”  “That is not part of the daily plan!” “You are so fat! Why can’t you just get yourself under control!”  “You are going to have to walk to school because you ate that you fat cow!  I don’t care if it’s raining!”

And that is just a taster (excuse my pun) of what would have been going on in my head.  Back in those days I had foods that were A-OK to eat and everything else was on the “absolutely do not touch or you WILL BE FAT” list.  I was sick…I was obsessed with maintaining my size nothing clothes and my starvation victim look.  That last bit of food  shows just how little I would eat…because what you see is the only amount I would allow to go into my mouth at one time….and that last but of food…that tiny bite…showed my failure and how I would never succeed.

Fast forward about 4 years…

The food symbolized more once again.

At this point my eating disorder was in recovery and I was finally at a health weight again.   However, healthy weight didn’t mean that I had a healthy relationship with food.  You see, 4 years ago, this last bit of food wouldn’t be there.  I would have devoured the leftovers and eaten everything until it was gone.  I was numb to food.  If I had to eat it, well then, I would eat it so fast that I wouldn’t even notice I was eating.

Once again, I would have thoughts streaming through my head..but this time, it would be a shock to see that I had finished the entire container of food.

“There you go again!  You were supposed to pay attention Megan! Can’t you do anything right?!”  “You know you have to work this off later don’t you?”  “Let’s see if you can compensate with the next meal.”  “You are so fat and it’s only getting worse because you have no control around food!”  “You big fat slob!” “No guy is ever going to want you!”

The thoughts would go on and on…and it always ended with me numbing again and just eating or just eating because the thoughts wouldn’t stop.  Not a great combo.

Nowadays that picture above shows a different story.  I eat the yummy food without yelling at myself, without numbing, and without guilt.  I know that this food that I eat will not effect my weight.  I trust my body and I listen to what it says to me, but more importantly, I love it enough to stop beforeI feel overly full.

This last bite of food symbolizes so much.  It shows how far I’ve come.  It shows how different things can be.  Most of all, it shows that Food Freedom is possible  for me and for YOU.

 

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Celebrating Breast Cancer Awareness Month

October is breast cancer awareness month and, as a self-described pinkaholic, the appearance of pink ribbons, clothes and more makes my heart pitter patter with happiness.  I’ve always been more than happy to justify the purchase of an extra pink item I don’t necessarily need because it is supporting a cause.

Cancer always seemed like an abstract thing to me.  Like this scary entity that was suddenly changing so many peoples’ lives around me but it never seemed to be something that I paid much attention to. Kinda like that annoying person in class who asked question after question…that never seemed to bother you much until the day you could have gotten out of class early if the person would stop freaking asking questions.

I would go about my days and would feel bad for those who got diagnosed with cancer or who were talking about their loved ones getting diagnosed…all while secretly thinking “phew! At least it wasn’t me!”

Until, suddenly, it was me….and someone that I love more than words, heard those fateful words “the test results are positive.  You have cancer.”  The last few months have been filled with uncertainty, treatments, surgery, and more doctors than you can count.  What shocks me is the sheer amount of women I see each and every time I visit the cancer center with my mom.  It so tough to look into the eyes of the cancer patients…the looks of pain, fear and uncertainty that shine from their eyes is enough to bring a person to tears….don’t even get me started on their loved ones that I see.

This cancer monster is a very real thing…and it doesn’t discriminate on who it strikes.

Perhaps you already know someone who has cancer…or maybe you have already been diagnosed yourself?

Approximately 39% of men and women will be diagnosed with cancer at some point in their life.  That’s almost 50% of people!? And that doesn’t even take into account those who know a loved one and are affected that way.

Cancer has sprung up at an alarming rate BUT this is not a post about doom and gloom.  My intention here isn’t to freak you out terribly….well, maybe a little….because here’s the thing….there are steps you can take RIGHT NOW to decrease your risk of getting cancer and/or boost your ability to recover if you get diagnosed.

What steps?  Well, I’m so glad you asked! Learning to take care of your body with nutrition NOW is so key to modulating your risk of developing, not just cancer, but every single major chronic illness out there today.  Look, I get it…I’m not the first person to say something like that to you…nor will I be the last….but there is a reason this point is emphasized over and over again…BECAUSE IT IS IMPORTANT.

I know it can be overwhelming to even think about making changes…let alone what changes to make or where to even start.  I get that there are 101 reasons why you can’t….but let me tell you from experience….it’s easier to make the changes when you are desperate because you are really sick and are afraid and, yes, it’s more challenging to make health a priority when everything seems to be running smoothly.  However, you can’t see the inner workings of the body on a day to day basis….you can’t see as the inflammation slowly begins to cause issues….you can’t see the damage…until it’s too late.

Look, I totally get it….I used to have every (very reasonable in my mind) excuse as to why I was good and didn’t need to change….but those excuses didn’t help me one iota as I sat in a cancer center with an IV in my arm and seriously sick at 25.  Just like those excuses didn’t help one iota for every terminal cancer patient I had to look in the eyes as I sat there and I know those excuses didn’t help one iota for every woman I saw in the breast cancer center this morning. Personally, I’d bet big money that each person diagnosed with cancer would LOVE to go back in time and take action to prevent their suffering.

Unfortunately, I see the same choices continuing day in and day out.  I see those who choose not to prioritize their health.  I see how dietary changes are put to the side because there isn’t any real immediate gratification (aside from weight loss I guess).  I see people heading for a health disaster….and I wish so badly I could bring their future self to have a chat with them.  I was given the gift to heal and start over.  I am able now to make new choices.  Unfortunately, some people never receive that gift.

So you have a choice…right here….right now….are you going to choose take preventative measures even though it may not be the easiest, most popular, way of doing things?….or are you going to roll the dice and hope that one day you don’t find yourself thoroughly exhausted, sitting in a chair, listening to the blip of the machine as chemo slowly drips into your body, and wishing beyond anything you could have done something to prevent all of it?

You always have the choice….at every single step of your journey….so what will you choose?

And if you are ready to choose health….if you are ready to choose prevention..If you are tired of feeling confused around how to eat better and how to prevent chronic disease…then I have one final question for you….

Would you like some help with that?

 

 

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My BulletProof Coffee Experience

So I tried Bulletproof coffee this morning….

Nevermind that I have a dairy allergy…

Nevermind that I’m sensitive to coffee….

“The real high performers drink this stuff and I need to start cleansing my body from all the crap I’ve been eating and drinking lately”…. I thought to myself…

First attempt to make the coffee…EPIC fail…ghee and coffee everywhere….

Second attempt….SUCCESS! I took a whiff and quickly wanted to plug my nose….ughhhh “well I hope this tastes better than it smells..” I thought to myself…

Here goes nothing….I take a drink….

UGHAGAHNERGKANWHGH that tastes TERRIBLE!!!!

Hmmmm…maybe if I add some stevia….

3, 2, 1….I take another drink with some stevia mixed in…..

UGHEIHHGHAGHGHGHGH that tastes like sugared TERRIBLE!!!

Maybe if I plug my nose….

Then a still small voice comes from deep within….and says “Megan…what are you doing?”….my higher self is looking at me over her half moon glasses and giving me the look of a teacher scolding a student…

But…if I don’t drink this….I won’t be a high performer…I once again won’t be good enough…I will suck…I am such a failure…I won’t be able to be fit and lean…I won’t be able to effing biohack myself!….my brain screams at me endlessly with each phrase loaded with insult after insult.

I watch this in my consciousness….and sit still with curiosity…

Isn’t it interesting how we judge ourselves if the latest fad doesn’t work for us….or how we judge ourselves for not being able to fit in with the crowd?

Have you ever judged yourself for not being able to stick to the latest diet? Have you thought that you are a failure and won’t succeed in getting to the weight you want because you can’t follow keto, paleo, veganism, etc.?

The frustration in my body is palpable….I’m angry at my body….”why can’t you just freaking work for once?!” I think to myself….

And again…my higher self whispers….”You know what to do Megan…it’s not about the extremes…you know that you don’t need to drink bulletproof coffee to be good enough…to be healthy…to be the best version of yourself. All you have to do is turn inward and ask your body what it truly needs and wants instead of listening to what the outside world says is ‘the best’ way of doing things.”

I sit for a moment in contemplation….true….maybe I was being a bit too extreme….my shoulders sag as if releasing a load of bricks off of them…time to go make a smoothie….

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Shine Bright

I can’t believe this guy is talking to me!!! Play it cool…play it cool megan!

The crisp fall air rustled my hair as we sat on the cool bleachers. “Touchdown!” The announcer yelled through the loud speakers as a general cry of happiness went up from the crowd. The world seemed to be moving so fast around me as people high fived each other and jumped up and down with glee to celebrate the score….

I could smell the scent of pine and sandalwood of his cologne as we high fived each other in celebration of the touchdown. His eyes were so blue and I felt the excitement of feeling like a guy actually was interested in me.

Me…the girl who was awkward, nerdy and finally coming into her own. Who no longer had tons of acne or was overweight…

We sat back down and began to discuss football and I tried to wow him with my knowledge of sports…the conversation flowed and my confidence grew as the game went on. But then one comment changed everything…

You certainly seem to know a lot he said with a smile….my friend turned from her spot sitting behind me and said with a mocking tone “well she is a brainiac didnt you know? She has a 4.7 gpa so of course she knows a lot”

The boy’s eyes widened and gone was the playful banter of just a minute ago…”you have a 4.7?!” He asked with incredulity in his voice…as I sheepishly nodded my assent he turned and put his back to me and engaged another girl in conversation…hurt, anger, embarrassment ovetook me like a tidal wave…

Have you ever experienced being put down becAuse of your intelligence? Your power? Your strengths?

How had that continued to influence your life? How you show up in the world? What gift have you been keeping quiet because you were taught at some point that shining to brightly isnt safe?

Today…yes today…bring that talent to light. The world needs your gifts…your power…your light. Yes you may encounter bullies…but, more importantly, you will encounter people who are grateful because you changed their life for the better…and you will see the worthy people who celebrate your strengths and gifts.

Shine brightly starting TODAY

Xoxo,
Megan

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A Note on Gluten

Harvard researchers recently published a study that found gluten has no affect on causing heart disease.

This study was brought to my attention and it’s very interesting. The doctors and people commenting on the study findings of course start attacking anyone who believes removing gluten is the answer.

Here’s the thing (coming from a very big Gluten Free advocate)….

1st: Do not discount me or think that I’m dumb and just a follower if I believe this…..on the contrary….I’m a healthcare practitioner that is dedicated to helping my clients feel better in any way I can….and if that means removing an inflammatory protein because the case studies enormously outweigh the “perfect” research then so be it.

2nd. The problem with research studies such as this is that they indicate that going gluten free is harmful….BUT they do not take the time to clarify that it is the consumption of gluten free processed foods that is not good for the patient NOT necessarily the entire gluten free way of eating.

3rd. Instead of condemning the gluten free diet….how about actually talk about what matters…that eating Fruits, Vegetables, Proteins and limiting processed foods is what will lead to health….there is no way you can argue against this.

4th. Lastly, how about you ask your patients and trust what they feel instead of immediately jumping to conclusions or invalidating their observations. Don’t be so resistant to results and methodologies that make your patients feel better. Patient health and quality of life should ALWAYS trump what the science says and what you believe. (And yes…if I had a patient that felt better and was healthier eating gluten then I would support them!)

Removing gluten from your diet can be such a healing thing for the body….but thinking that replacing your usual bagel with a gluten free one will somehow totally revitalize your health is not the answer. The answer is simple….EAT REAL FOOD.

There are many things that still need to be discovered about gluten….like why the reports of symptoms from gluten are so high in the USA and why they are on the rise.  Perhaps later we will find that it is the GMO crop of wheat produced in the USA?  Perhaps it’s actually just gluten and the symptoms aren’t as prevalent in Europe?  All that I know is that I will continue to have an open mind and will listen to my clients when it comes to what they feel…and you won’t find this Nutritionist eating gluten any time soon.

What are your questions? Thoughts? Have you ever tried going gluten free? Why/Why not?

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Do You Live for the Weekend?

I remember counting down the days until Friday.  It always felt like I was back in elementary school counting down the days until I was free for the summer.  Anticipation, excitement, the thirst for freedom so strong that it became a major focus of my attention those last few hours at work.

Yes, I anticipated the weekend because I was free from the negative environment I worked in, but it was also something so much more than that.  The weekend was the time that I was set free from my food police.  During the week I had the food nazi’s watching every single morsel that I put into my mouth.  Their commentary so loud that I wondered if everyone could hear it.  “Don’t eat that!” “You better burn that off at the gym” “That will go right to your stomach” “You are making yourself fat!” “Good girl, you have permission to feel confident because you drank that green juice”….on and on and on it droned.  Sound familiar?

However, once the weekend hit, it was like I was a puppy unleashed from their crate….I was FREEE…Free to indulge, free to treat myself, free to eat all the “bad” foods.  Over the next two days I would eat what I truly wanted, what I craved, and all while feeling like complete crap about myself and my “lack of control.”  Heaven forbid I really overdo it during the weekend freedom fest.

Back and forth, back and forth that pendulum swung week after week.  And I know I’m not the only one.

I lived that way for longer than I care to admit.  BUT I eventually discovered something important.  Freedom is a choice we make.  I finally decided to get off that roller coaster and decided that I loved me enough to honor what I truly deserved…a life where indulgence isn’t even a real concept with my diet.

Nowadays I crave green juice as much as I crave cookies.  I listen and ask my body what it needs.  I’ve been able to maintain my ideal weight for years now no matter how much exercise I’m doing.  Do I sometimes eat foods that don’t make me feel that great?  Yep!  I’m not perfect!  But I always understand that I have a choice each and every moment.  I can choose to give in to the food police once more…or I can choose to truly live in FREEDOM.  And that is an easy decision to make.

So….what can you choose today?  Do you choose to let the back and forth cycle continue?  Do you choose to berate yourself for eating “bad” foods?  Do you choose to make harsh judgments about yourself based on your weight?

OR

Do you choose to love yourself no matter what your weight or health status?  Do you choose to honor your body and give it what it needs?  Do you choose to speak kindly to yourself?  Do you choose FREEDOM?

xoxo,

Megan

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The Biggest Loss

Right now money seems to be the big topic in my neck of the social media woods.

Every person seems to be doing everything they can to manifest more and more money.  People are wanting to increase their wealth and other people are capitalizing on it by throwing out money courses, programs, and coaching left, right and center.  While I think it’s great that we are all trying to increase the wealth of inspirational and good-hearted people, the strong focus on money has left me sitting in the corner saying “uhhh guys….but what about health?”

You see, money is a fun thing to focus on because that is what our culture loves to sell us….the idea of the “perfect” life when you have lots of money (and lots of things).  I’ll freely admit that I’m just like any other sally-schmally…I want to have a comfortable financial life too!  However, unlike a lot of people, I totally and completely understand that without my health, no amount of money means a damn thing.  Marketing has been around a long time at this point.  We are used to commercials, radio plugs, and magazine ads.  In recent years, the introduction of social media ads and even the introduction of social media itself has only increased the amount of marketing we are subjected to each day.  It’s no wonder we have become obsessed with making more money (and in the easiest/quickest way possible) because all day long we are being told that we need more stuff….more success, more prestige, more power….all of that symbolized by our income, what we do, the vacations we take, the cars we drive, the house we live in, etc. etc.

What’s even worse is the sensational marketing that is now becoming the norm in order for everyday entrepreneurs to be seen and noticed online. “10K in 10 days!” “6 Figures in 6 months” and all if you purchase my secret formula for success! Cue the eye roll.

However, as awesome as it is to be more money conscious…people are missing a big point here.  Having all the money in the world means absolutely diddly squat if you are sick.  Just ask Steve Jobs….all the money in the world did not prevent him from dieing.  Even scarier, is the glorification of overwork with the “hustle” culture.  People are made to feel that if they are exhausted, overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, etc. then they need to just suck it up and hustle because if they aren’t “hustling” then they must not want success bad enough.  UHHEMMM CAN SOMEONE SAY WRONNNNGGG!

I understand that success, power, financial abundance, etc. are important.  Heck, even I want those things!  However, there is a gross underemphasis on the importance of taking care of yourself and your body health-wise.  I see these entrepreneurs online and know for a fact some of them have massively burned out and their body finally broke down forcing them to stop.  But why isn’t anyone talking about it?  Why aren’t these influencers discussing the downfalls of the “hustle” until you burnout culture?

Yes, you have those health coaches, dieticians, nutritionists etc. talking about health eating and exercising but most of it is just to sell you a program or their “perfect formula” for success.  (Raises hand) Hey I’ve done it when I marketed my Food Freedom Formula!  But yet no one is really talking about setting yourself up to live a long-term life.  Everything seems to be focused on the short-term…Making quick money, losing 10lbs fast, finding that soulmate like yesterday.

I could blame my generation and technology for all the focus on quick gratification but that won’t really do anything productive.  Instead I invite you to pause for a second and ask yourself “what am I currently putting above my health and longevity?”  “What am I valuing more?  What am I making more of a priority?”

Now, what would happen if you got terminal cancer tomorrow?  Would those things still matter as much?  Perhaps they matter but would you be able to show up for them as much?

You see, when your body is functioning along at a decent rate it can be hard to imagine your health declining and people tend to make their health less of a priority.  Maybe you try to lose some weight because you want to look fabulous on the outside but external validation rarely creates lasting results.  For most people, it’s not until they hit health crisis mode that they begin to make some changes.  I know that was how it was for me!  It took my health crashing majorly 3 TIMES for it to finally sink in….there is nothing more valuable than your health.

So….if you felt a bit uncomfortable with those questions above….if you aren’t valuing your health like you know you need to….I want you to know that you aren’t alone BUT you have a choice to make.  You can choose to remain as you are and gamble as to when your body will break down OR you can choose to start prioritizing your health today.  It’s your choice but I can tell you this….If you don’t have time for your health now, then you will have to make time for the doctor later.  Don’t make the same mistakes I did….don’t choose to learn this lesson the hard way.

Sending you so much love!

xoxo,

Megan

P.S. If you want to commit to changing your relationship with your body and boosting your health in a big way, then let’s chat!  Making health changes doesn’t have to be extreme and it can be more fun and positive than you realize.  Body love, tons of energy, and overall wellness are there for you….however it takes discovering the right formula for you….not a one-size-fits-all approach and I want to help you.  Comment below or email info@meganalena.com for more information on how we can work together to transform your health, body, and life to something you only dreamed of.

 

 

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What’s Your Super Power?

As I go through each day of this social media detox and am forced to interact with more people face to face, a super power has emerged that I’m really quite excited about.  What is it you ask?

No it’s not x-ray vision…or telepathy…although both would be AWESOME!

This super power is something that allows me to do something awesome…you ready for it?

My super power is being able to see the true power, the essence, and the unseen potential inside other human beings.  As I’ve been going about my days, I can’t help but look around me with awe and humbleness.  Every human being I see is being seen through new eyes.  It’s like I’ve been given a special kind of vision and, for that, I am so grateful.

Each time I talk to someone new, I get so excited to hear about their lives and, like Nancy Drew, I have an innate curiosity and will to discover the power within them that will not be ignored.  So many people around me walk through life completely unaware of the fact that they have a super power too.

Just like you, my dear reader.

You have a super power, a well of incredible gifts, that stands untapped inside of you and, yet, most people run away from or scoff at, the mere idea that they are inherently gifted.

Why?

This question of why has been on my mind this morning and I have some theories that I would like to share with you if I may?

You see, I believe that people run away from any sign of their power because acknowledging it means that they must face the things in their lives that are less than super.  I believe that when you finally understand that you are truly very powerful, living a life of mundane experiences becomes unbearable because it is no longer in congruence with who you know yourself to be.  By claiming the idea that you are very powerful, you also claim the premise that you deserve nothing less than extraordinary in your life.  This makes some people extremely uncomfortable because much of their current life is spend doing the ordinary…things they “should be doing” or what is “expected of them.”

Secondly, I believe people shy away from claiming their power because once you do so, you accept the responsibility of truly implementing and using those gifts for the greater good of all.  Sounds a little (or maybe more than a little) scary right?  Afterall, accepting the responsibility might mean changing your career, starting your own business, writing the book, being polarizing in your message, leaving the negative relationship, making big health changes, or maybe even changing locations.  Fully understanding and accepting your power can mean big changes and leaps of faith.  However, owning this power, facing it, accepting it, welcoming it, can also mean truly living a life that is extraordinary, a life that is filled with feelings of fulfillment and joy, not to mention, the innate inner knowing that you are living big and have held nothing back.

So, ultimately, I go about my day and I see person after person filled with absolutely incredible power and potential.  Some are just starting to wake up to it and some are still totally unaware, but I will say this, no matter where you are on the journey, I see you.  I see your super power.  I see the incredible gifts and all of that untapped potential.  I see it all waiting like a slumbering giant ready to be unleashed.

You are more powerful than you realize.  You have the potential to live a life that goes way beyond ordinary and this goes for whatever age you currently find yourself at.  The question is, are you willing to see your own power?  To see your own amazingness?  Your true abilities?  Is it scary to do so?  Yep!  But I can tell you that it’s a journey more rewarding than any other you take in your life.

As for me, I’ll continue to go through my days calling and speaking to the power within you in the hopes that someday I can hand you the keys to unlock the true potential inside.

xoxo,

Megan

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Interesting thoughts on a social media detox…

Hi there! Soooo I’m in the middle of a social media detox and I have to say that it has been interesting thus far.  At first I’ll admit that I was freaking out at the thought of doing a complete detox from social media.  What if I lose momentum?  What if I lose business? What if this is a stupid decision?  What if nobody gives a crap that I’m not posting on social media?

So many questions were running through my mind.

Now that it’s been a day or so, I will admit that I’ve caught myself trying to log in to social media a few times.  However, I’m a bit surprised at how much I actually don’t miss it.  The thing I miss the most is doing live streams.  I love getting to connect with people and help them via live stream!  However, the constant rat race and pressure to post and try to get ahead of the 10 million and one coaches online is something I totally do not miss.

It’s so interesting how our true thoughts and our methods of sabotage (not to mention our excuses) are sharply thrown into the spotlight when you don’t have the distraction of social media.  The dangerous part of social media is that those of us who run our businesses online use it as an excuse.  What do I mean?  Well, social media is addictive.  It’s not always good for us and in fact, it can derail a good vibe faster than a driver with a severe case of road rage.  As an online entrepreneur, I’ve caught myself with this story that I tell about why I “need” to be on social media all the time….and I’m wondering if you feel the same?

Here’s how it goes:

I need to be online all the time for my business.  If I’m not hustling and getting my name out there then I’m lazy and other’s will be more successful than me (and faster!).  There is a limited amount of business and the “stellar” customers are hard to come by so I need to do everything I can to ingratiate myself to them faster.  If I’m not giving of myself and “serving the world” by showing up on social media, I’m not actually leaving an impact and I don’t care as much.  Ugh but I’m lacking inspiration right now! Especially since I just saw whatshername post about her amazing clients and how she hit six figures so easily.  Like WTF?! I’m working my brains off here and it’s like pulling teeth to get people to notice my message.  Oh Shit! What if they can tell my vibe is off or frustrated?! Then they aren’t going to like me and they are going to give that other lady their business.  I gotta be careful what I say and what I post because I don’t want to give off a bad vibe!  But I also gotta make sure that it’s totally real and authentic because then they will never trust me.  But, crap, was that post too challenging?  I don’t want to piss them off either.  UGGHHH, damnit…I’m just going to post a quote and call it a day….thirty minutes later and still scrolling….the coaching industry is so saturated.  Maybe I’ll never get the hang of this.  I feel like having to post so much is sucking my soul dry.  Not to mention all the editing and making sure that its vulnerable  but not needy, real but not frustrated, unique but still relatable, inspiring but not too triggering, oh and damn I gotta make sure I have a good pic to go with it…and freaking hashtags!

That’s just a little bit of what goes through my brain.  What about you?

Can you see how ridiculous this all is?!

I’m telling you all, the longer I’m away from social media the more the true essence of this problem is revealed to me.  With so many opinions on how you should or shouldn’t post, not to mention judgments around how much you should or shouldn’t hustle, it’s no wonder people are burning out….and this doesn’t even touch on freaking hashtags, ads, insta stories, live streams and groups.  There is so much noise with social media and it’s almost like we are all a bunch of peacocks ruffling our feathers in the hopes of catching that customer or customers that will skyrocket us into financial security.

Heaven forbid you post something a bit challenging because then the wannabe coaches come out of the woodwork and start telling you all the limiting beliefs etc that must be coming up because of your negativity (aka coaching without permission)…and if not them, then it’s the angry manifestors who rage against you in the comments (or even better “send you compassion”) because you must be jealous or your life must be in shambles.   It’s always funny to me when this happens because those are the people who I know are triggered the most…the people who comment.

To me, the online coaching industry has become a bit of a shit show.  It’s like the drunken bachelorette party dancing on the bar and singing the latest pop hit at the top of their lungs at closing time.  It’s a bit of a train wreck with a huge cry out from the participants saying “Notice me! I’m important! Look how awesome I am!”  Meanwhile, I’m the girl nursing a cocktail on the side of the room watching the show and going “oh boy…been there…done that…definitely not going there again.”

You see, I’ve learned something big and I want to share it with you.

You don’t need to play into what everyone else is doing to be noticed.  You don’t need to do something outrageous to be seen and heard.  Most of all, the quality customers can see right through the facade and are looking for the truth tellers…the people unafraid to be who they are….the ones who shine simply because they are unwilling to play into the game.  Ya those drunken ladies may get a guy (or girl) at the end of the night, but it’s definitely not going to be a connection that will last and they will be left feeling physically and emotionally hungover the next day.  Whereas, those who choose to play by their own rules…who refuse to be a part of the shit show….they may not go home with a guy/girl that night, but you can bet their lives are filled with quality connections and connections that last.

So you always have a choice….who do you want to be?

I certainly won’t judge you no matter what you choose….I’ve been the girl on the bar drunkenly singing….but now that I’ve discovered the true and deep fun of being the total and unique version of myself that marches to her own drum…well, let’s just say…you won’t find me on any bars anytime soon.

xoxo,

Megan

 

P.S. I currently have one spot open for my coaching apprenticeship.  This means you will be coached by me and I will help you develop as a powerful and transformative coach.  I’m looking for someone who is a total action taker.  Someone who is willing to face fear and take action…someone who wants to impact the world for the better and someone who is ready to bet on themselves and invest in something that will completely help their business.  If this is you, email info@meganalena.com and we can set up a time to chat.

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The Dark Shadow Side to the Law of Attraction

If you are in the personal development field or even if you know someone who has entered into the realm of personal development, you have likely heard of the Law of Attraction.  Made famous by the infamous documentary The Secret, the law of attraction states that our thoughts become our reality.

A few years back I stumbled into the Law of Attraction philosophy when I was living in New York City.  At the time I was frustrated with being single and had been put through the ringer by a dishonest landlord and a bedbug infestation.  I had reached a particularly low point and thus decided to immerse myself in the self-help world.  As I devoured book after book on the topic, I LOVED the idea that I actually had control over what my future held.  Control meant that I could bring the man, success, money and more to me and all that I had to do was work on my thoughts.

Fast forward about a year later and I had manifested my husband (we met a little over a year after I started believing in the law of attraction).  “This stuff really works,” I thought to myself…and so I moved on to the next items on my vision board.  However, as the years have gone by the dark side of the Law of Attraction has revealed itself to me.

You see, as a life coach, I spend my days immersed in the self-help world on social media and it is incredible to me how the shadows of the Law of Attraction are so prevalent but no one seems to be talking about it.  Below you will find some of the top shadows I see in the Law of Attraction.

 1. All I have to do is control my thoughts and everything will be handed to me on a silver platter.

This is a big one.  Perhaps it is the millenial generation but the Law of Attraction seems to be perfectly designed for those who want to strike it rich, find epic love, and/or be massively successful BUT they want it to be extremely easy.  I see this so often online it is ridiculous.  So many times I see people state how they want to change their life and how much they desire something but then are totally and completely unwilling to TAKE ACTION (no matter how uncomfortable) towards what it is that they desire.  This is huge in regards to spending money.  The Law of Attraction makes plays into this idea that people should never have to get uncomfortable with money (or face fears of spending it) because as long as they keep their thoughts positive, what they want will magically happen for them.

News flash: YOU ARE HUMAN AND BEING HUMAN MEANS GETTING UNCOMFORTABLE.  The Law of Attraction is feeding into this culture of laziness and complacency.  If I could only tell you the amount of times I’ve heard or seen the phrase “I really want this __________ but I don’t have the time/money/______ so I’m just going to manifest it.”  These excuses are such BS!  If you truly want something, it’s time to go after it and think of all the ways you can make it happen!  Stop with the laziness and excuses.  Let me give it to you straight.  Sitting back and waiting to manifest what you desire WILL NEVER make you successful.  There I said it….the cat’s out of the bag.  Stop using the Law of Attraction as a crutch and an excuse for your complacency.

2. I didn’t keep all my thoughts positive so that is why my desire didn’t happen.

OMFG this one….I swear this one is so freaking dangerous.  This idea that it is all your fault because you didn’t keep your thoughts positive enough is so harmful.  Why?  Because it causes people to blame themselves when a program, course, coaching solution, formula, etc. doesn’t work.  This means that we have to rely on the morals of those creating them…which let me tell you right now…it’s a terrible idea!  There are definitely unethical and greedy people in the self-help world and I’ve seen one to many people get left in bad straights because of these people.  The worst part of it all is that the victims believe it is all their fault because they didn’t keep their thoughts positive enough!

I see so many coaches preying on those who want the quick fix I talked about in #1 and then they simply tell them that their magic pill of a solution didn’t work because the customer didn’t keep their thoughts positive enough. Diabolical right?  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen “10K in 10 days!” “5K in 5 Days” “How I Got to 6 Figures in a Month!” and more….each time I see one of those posts or ads with the subversive (or maybe even overt) undertone of “look at me…follow me…I have the magical solution to your problem!” I want to punch something.  Why?  Because I know there is no magic pill!  Each person is on their own journey and things will happen in the right time and space for them.  This means that all those ads and posts about having the solution will attract those who are either 1. wanting the solution for the least amount of money they can possibly pay or 2. those who are getting to the desperation point.

While this strategy may work…I absolutely refuse to engage in it.  I’ve seen really amazing and nice coaches do this with the excuse that it is the only way to get attention online and to compete.  I call BS.  Marketing that promises the magic pill is always unethical in my opinion….and my lawyer husband is always quick to remind me that promising those kinds of solutions without the evidence to sufficiently back it up could be ILLEGAL…just saying..

3. This bad thing happened because I must have attracted it.

Ok so don’t even get me started on this one.  As humans we all like to figure out/have reasons for the events in our lives.  It comes down to control.  We love to feel in control because then we feel powerful and safer that way.  The Law of Attraction provides a perfect method for this desire of control to play out.  News Flash to all of you who believe that your thoughts created all of the negative events in your life…..YOU DO NOT HAVE CONTROL OF EVERYTHING AND SOME THINGS HAPPEN THAT ARE OUT OF OUR CONTROL.  You did not get robbed because you were having negative thoughts.  You did not tragically lose your parents because you were having negative thoughts.  You did not get side-swiped by some asshole driver because you were having negative thoughts.  Some things just happen and they happen because as humans we have free will.  So do yourself a freaking favor, STOP BLAMING YOURSELF for every single negative thing that happens in your life.

As you can see, there are some definite shadows to the personal development world and with ten million new coaches popping up daily, there needs to be a call for some integrity.  Listen, the Law of Attraction works.  It worked to manifest my husband.  It worked to manifest our amazing house.  It worked to manifest checks in the mail, vacations and more.  However, it continues to work because I understand the importance of putting my money where my mouth is….of taking the scary steps and leaps of faith….of putting in the hard work…of being authentic, real and in integrity with my actions and words….and of releasing the need to control every single thing in my life.

Stop expecting the Law of Attraction to save you.  It won’t.  You have to step up, put on your big kid pants and do the work to transform your life.